Whenever there is talk of an Indian girl getting married, there is this word--adjust. When I was in college, my friends would say, "You're so adjusting, you'll have no problems when you get married."I have heard that bit of dialog repeated with little variation by so many people over so many years. So many of my friends have accepted this adjustment as a fact of their marital lives. Friends who till that point had shown so much spunk and independence. And no, economic dependence or independence, or education or the lack of it seems to have nothing to do with it. It is not only the "housewives" but also the ones who are earning a living for themselves who adjust in a marriage.
I don't know if it is difficult to overturn a practice because everybody is following it? Is it really that difficult to resist years of cultural conditioning? Or is it because the players involved themselves want to take the easy way out -- the path of least resistance?
Do read Sibyl's Indian wives and power.