tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9982477.post113810498272894248..comments2024-02-21T15:45:40.747+05:30Comments on Ink Scrawl: Adjusting in an Indian Marriagemandar talvekarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17060905096456474640noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9982477.post-77533653143550670302008-06-02T17:44:00.000+05:302008-06-02T17:44:00.000+05:30I beg to differ on this. Its not so much financial...I beg to differ on this. Its not so much financial dependence, but it’s the desperate attempt to live up to the social definition of a “good homemaker/spouse” that forces people to adjust. We adjust because we don’t want to disturb the existing truce (that is in place as a result of another set of adjustments may be), we adjust to live up to expectations of people who matter (near and dear ones Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9982477.post-1138183774285281532006-01-25T15:39:00.000+05:302006-01-25T15:39:00.000+05:30Hi Sibyl,You ask a very pertinent question when yo...Hi Sibyl,<BR/>You ask a very pertinent question when you say can the "adjusting" girl afford to rebel. But I think Niti answers it in a way -- There's always a limit to adjustment -- it is upto the person to draw that line.<BR/><BR/>And while it may be difficult for a person who is financially dependent on the spouse to refuse to adjust for practical reasons -- i don't feel there's any dignity mandar talvekarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17060905096456474640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9982477.post-1138135032370299532006-01-25T02:07:00.000+05:302006-01-25T02:07:00.000+05:30Hi, thanks for the referral.You say:I don't know i...Hi, thanks for the referral.<BR/><BR/>You say:<BR/><I>I don't know if it is difficult to overturn a practice because everybody is following it? Is it really that difficult to resist years of cultural conditioning?</I><BR/><BR/>All I know is that if you get into a situation created by others, you have very few choices unless you want to actively rebel. The question is, can you afford to (rebel)?<Sibylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14855109785931701958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9982477.post-1138129090573995822006-01-25T00:28:00.000+05:302006-01-25T00:28:00.000+05:30There is only so much that you can adjust before t...There is only so much that you can adjust before there is no 'you' left. imho. good point though. thanks.Niti Bhanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05378260193635390923noreply@blogger.com